Loving the ReMoved Child, the reality of Adoption, Fostering, and Guardianships.

I wept watching this video that Relevant Magazine posted last week called, ReMoved (link attached).  I realized that so many of us have a false view of what loving a child from a broken and painful place is really like. So, I’m writing this for … Continue reading

Mary Moments in my Martha World

If you’ve attended Women’s Bible studies or been in the Church scene for any amount of time, then you are most likely familiar with the story of Martha and Mary.  It’s found in Chapter 10 of the book of  Luke, and it tells of Jesus visiting the home of Martha.  Martha begins to busy herself, cooking and cleaning to serve Jesus and His disciples, while Mary sits at the feet of Jesus and takes in every moment with Him.  Martha becomes frustrated that her sister is not helping with all the work and Jesus tells her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one.  Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

Made in the Image of God

I have heard that echo of “Martha, Martha” in my head so many times.  Combined with the guilt ridden comments of well-meaning Christian women, that take Jesus’ words to an extreme, putting their heaviness over our souls that we need to be a Mary and never have a busy life.  I can assure you one thing; God loved Martha, He created her in His image, and Jesus himself came to her home!  Ok, let’s keep it real for a second…Jesus came to her home!! I’m pretty sure I would be freaking out, running around trying to pick things up and create a 5 Star worthy meal for my Savior.  I mean seriously ladies, of all people to walk through our doors!  If Jesus came to my home, I would want it to be perfect, and meet His every need.  But, the truth is, Jesus is the only perfect one, and I would have missed the most important moment of my life; sitting at His feet and letting Him meet my needs instead.  The beauty of grace itself.

Oh, to be Mary and savor the moment she had in the presence of our Lord, beautiful peace must have washed over her.  I can hardly imagine, and I don’t want to miss those Grace moments in my life.  Here is the freedom in this familiar Bible Story sweet momma, it’s about moments in our lives.  Jesus does not want you to be perfect, your home to be perfect, or most certainly for your children to be perfect!  He wants you, just as you are, to sit at His feet, and hear His voice, feel his peace, and know His passionate love for you.  Nothing more, dear friend.

You are Enough

The truth is, Martha had a home, and one that Jesus came to visit.  Stop right there!  A home takes money, work, food, laundry, the list goes on!  Martha kept a home, and I’m sure she was busy doing it, have you read Proverbs 31?  You know, that Proverbs woman that sets this standard for  all women in the Bible?  Girlfriend was so busy!! Busy, to the point that some of us Christians think she is our example, not dear little Mary.  We think we should be the woman that does it all, like our darling Proverbs 31 example!

Tiny Football Hands

Life is about balance, not guilt ridden extremes!  I’ve already introduced myself as a plate full, always on the go, busy, Mom of Adventure and Grace, and I’m thankful to be just that.  But, in my busy life as a wife and a mom of many, I’m sensitive to the important moments in my life.  Moments of stillness at the feet of Jesus, reading the Bible and praying, praying with my husband, cooking a little slower because the little hands of my children want to help me, stopping my chores because my adorable five year old wants me to through the football with him, spending an entire day in my pj’s and giving our kids freedom to do whatever they desire.  Oh, precious moments with my children, hugs and kisses, encouragement to their broken hearts, laughter at their silliness, walks to the park, moments where I’m present, not distracted, just like sitting at the feet of Jesus.

Little Hands in the Kitchen

Beautiful things happen in the stillness of our Grace moments dear friends.  Don’t let guilt sneak in through extreme teachings of Mary vs Proverbs 31 Woman, it will rob you of the gifts found in our Mary moments, right in the middle of  our busy Martha kinda days.  Savor them, and bask in the grace of Jesus, he loves you just as you are, there is no need to impress Him with living in the extreme, my love.

The Power of Mornings

D Reading the God's Word

I often get the question, “How do you do it all?”, especially since we doubled our family overnight.  So, I want to be very clear, I don’t!  I absolutely do not “do it all”, quite honestly most days I leave more of my to-do list unchecked than checked. (I know that drives us Type A mommas crazy to even read)   My busy life is all about priorities, there is one thing that I never put on a to-do list, because it is not optional, I can’t put it on a list and run the risk of it being left undone because, that would surely leave me undone.  Quiet time with the Lord; reading His written Word, praying, pondering on things of Him, reading books that encourage my faith, these moments are a must in my hectic schedule, and they hold tender mercies that fill me up so that I may be poured out like an offering the rest of the day.   The things that fill our mornings set the tone for our entire day, and quite honestly they set the tone for our husband and children’s day too.

Today was a perfect example of what happens if I don’t fight to protect my quiet time with the Lord, and I rush through my morning, and my crazy to-do list without first seeking Him.  Oh boy, here is another dose of keeping it “real” on my blog.  I imagine if my family was on a reality tv show, that the commercials leading up to the Season Premiere of the “McBogan Family” (our blended family nickname), would include images of my face distorted, barking orders at my children, still in my pj’s, and hair a crazed mess,  as I’m spilling food and coffee all over the kitchen, in my crazy morning rush!  Oh ya, it would be beautiful.

In my frantic rush of trying to get my darling husband out the door at 6:30 am with a cup of coffee, breakfast, lunch, and a loving kiss goodbye, followed by,  making six more healthy lunches, getting dinner into the crockpot, rushing my teenager out the door at 7:20 for High School, feeding, clothing, and doing the hair of four more kiddos then, reminding them to feed the dog, the fish, and the lizard; to make their beds and to find their shoes, and jackets and to get in the car, all while trying to make myself presentable for work; I lost my cool and I was a hot mess.  Oh, I can see the reality show trailer now, the freeze frame of my crazed face with a caption “tune in Mondays at 8 for a new season of the McBogan family-Frantic Chaos for your viewing pleasure!”

An early morning appointment took an hour out of our normal weekday schedule and it felt like it took three hours out of our schedule.  It caused such a rushed, chaotic morning, and it lacked loving kindness on my tongue, and God was not even finished yet.  On the way to several different drop-offs of children my car broke down 15 times, yes I said 15 times ladies and gentlemen. Repeatedly my car died, mid-freeway, mid-intersection, just died, no power at all, and a little light came on that said “Reduced Engine Power”.  Perfect!  As I stopped with my hazard lights on staring at that “Reduced Engine Power” light, angry drivers honking at me, kids yelling they were going to be late to camp, I called my husband frustrated and feeling helpless, and then I hung up and couldn’t help but laugh at the irony.   Oh what a mess of a morning, and what a thick skull I have!  Thank you for the reminder God, that I was running on reduced engine power.

Mornings, sweet precious mornings, are the start of a new beginning.  Lamentations 3:22-23 reminds us that the steadfast love of the Lord never ceases and His mercies are new every morning.  His loving kindness is a resting place for us to be renewed each and every day friends.  When we fight to carve out time in our busy schedules and seek Him first by reading His Word and delighting in His truth, he meets us there and fills us with everything that He knows we will need for the day.  “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you”  Psalm 119:11.  Oh, the strength and beauty that comes from hiding God’s truth in our hearts.  “…For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks” Luke 6:45.  Then, loving kindness and the law of grace can be on our tongues with the children God has entrusted us to train up in the way they should go (Proverbs 22:6), and with the husband that God has called us to love and respect (Ephesians 5).

When I’m faithful to spend time with my Father in Heaven every morning, he is intimate in his love for me, he heals my brokenness, restores my hope, fills me with joy, and covers me in his armor so I can be victorious in life’s battles.  God is so lavish in his love that He doesn’t even stop there, he has given me the most beautiful moments with my children as well.  Especially with my sweet D, he is my early riser and lover of the Bible.  With the exception of crazy mornings like today, my children know where to find me when they wake-up, I’m always cuddled up by the window with a blanket, a cup of coffee, and my Bible.  Most of the kiddos come greet me with a hug, then they go about their morning.  But, D always snuggles in next to me with his own Bible and reads the word of God.  He loves our morning time together and enjoys teaching his siblings about the verses he reads.  It’s precious, it’s a gift to my often weary momma heart.  I encourage you to make morning quiet time a high priority in your life, one that doesn’t go on a to-do list but that is a life line that your whole day hinges upon.  God will meet you there sweet friends 🙂

O God, You are my God; Early will I seek You; My soul thirsts for You;  My flesh longs for You; In a dry and thirsty land where there is no water.  Psalm 63:1

God is not through with us yet!

God created the world out of nothing, and as long as we are nothing, He can also make something out of us. ~Martin Luther

As the New Year approaches, we can often look back at the last year with analytical eyes, and at the future with new determination to do things different, to have more control, in one way or another.

I hear the weary words of my fellow moms crying out with sadness over what feels like a year of failure with their children, of wanting to be “more”; more present, more gentle, more playful, more active…”more”.

I hear the discouraged words of moms wanting to be “less”, feeling the full weight of the lie that they are “too much”; wanting to be less busy, less distracted, less emotional, less indecisive…”less”.

I hear the broken-hearted words of the wife wanting to be “loved”. To feel passion, to feel heard, to be protected, to be desired…”loved”.

I hear their cries echo in my own heart. My own battle with all of it, my own doubt and pain, and regret. But, then God whispers his amazing truth-truth that sets us free dear girlfriends!

You are “enough”, but not “too much”, you are “loved”, you are perfectly made in the image of God, and He loves you with an everlasting love; and the best part…God is ALWAYS about his business, he is always loving and transforming us into the image of His Son, and that my friends should be the focus of our New Year! To worship The Lord with a thankful heart because he is not through with us yet!